Single Moms

I believe a major issue faced by single women today is the struggle of raising and nurturing their children in a safe, healthy, and happy environment.

It is unfortunate that many single mothers struggle to do everything for their children with little to no support.  Single mothers have it hard when it comes to juggling the responsibilities of a job and being both mother and father in their children’s lives.  They have to find the time to spend with their children while also bringing home the money to support them.  This must be very hard and stressful for them.  A single mother not only plays the role of provider and parent but also friend, playmate and teacher. 

Is it harder for a mother to raise a son than a daughter because she must try to provide, or teach him, the same things that a man would if there was a male figure in the picture?  Do you think that women are capable of teachings boys, male things?  I do not see how they have a choice.  They have to do the best they can to fill those needs themselves.  If they do not then who will teach the child? 

We see young men being disrespectful, stealing and fighting on the street and part of the reason that this happens is that they have no father figure to look up to and the mother is not even trying to provide that male with the things he needs to succeed in the world.  I think that women need to put their male children in environments that have good men in them so that they can help teach these young men how to be men.  Single mothers have to look a little harder for activities that have men leading them so that they can mentor or role model for them.  Little league sports, church groups, after school programs and even the Boy Scouts have responsible men leading them and they could help a single mother teach their young men some of the things that they need to know by acting a their role model. 

But is that enough for the young boy with no father in his life?

double standard

i think the real problem is the double standard applied. when it's single dads it seems like folks come out of the woodwork to help them?

the reality

well, the sad thing here is that we still think in terms of boy things and girl things. of course it's good for kids to have role models of all sorts, but there are plenty of boys raised by strong women who grow up to be wonderful men. so many assumptions...

but the lack of support is certainly true. as extended families become more and more dispersed, usually because of the lack of job opportunities and our social safety net comes under further attack by those opposed to government in all forms except as a war machine, there's little hope single moms will see relief. in Iceland just having a baby gets you a government payment of $1700 per month. Imagine how far THAT would go toward helping single moms here!

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